No One Wins in the Blame Game!
2 The woman said to the serpent, “We may eat the fruit from the trees in the garden. 3 But about the fruit of the tree in the middle of the garden, God said, ‘You must not eat it or touch it, or you will die.’”
4 “No! You will not die,” the serpent said to the woman. 5 “In fact, God knows that when[a] you eat it your eyes will be opened and you will be like God,[b] knowing good and evil.” 6 Then the woman saw that the tree was good for food and delightful to look at, and that it was desirable for obtaining wisdom. So she took some of its fruit and ate it; she also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. 7 Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made loincloths for themselves.
8 Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden at the time of the evening breeze,[c] and they hid themselves from the Lord God among the trees of the garden. 9 So the Lord God called out to the man and said to him, “Where are you?”
10 And he said, “I heard You[d] in the garden and I was afraid because I was naked, so I hid.”
11 Then He asked, “Who told you that you were naked? Did you eat from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?”
12 Then the man replied, “The woman You gave to be with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate.”
Recently, there was a family that came to me for prayer and counsel. It seems the parents had not been perfect people (surprise, surprise) and one person wanted to bring up all the imperfections of the past and wreak utter havoc in the family. The family got together and began to talk to one another about how it had been so peaceful and everyone had gotten along just fine until all this blame began to be thrown around. Ultimately what this one person said the others had said had not been said at all! My advice to the family was to sit down together, along with the one who wanted to dredge everything up and get the whole thing straightened out and certain rules had to be followed. Each person had to take responsibility for the choices they made, they could not blame people or circumstances, and if apologies were owed they were to be made and the subject could never be brought back up again. The forgiveness that God showed to the person and persons involved had to be followed and grace given by the family members as well.
I experienced this myself when my mother went into heart failure after her valve repair. I became very aggravated with her doctor that performed the surgery because he failed to do another procedure that would have stopped my mother’s atrial fiberlation. What he did was gamble with my mother’s life. He decided not to do it because his “last 400 patients” had not gone back into it, and my mother came out of surgery WITH IT! Due to his lack of doing what he said he was going to do and should have done, had it not been for God, my mother would have paid with her life! One day as my mother lay in her hospital bed, brushing death once again, I began to vent! I was FURIOUS with this doctor and began to question his thinking on something that was just plain common sense! My father began to do the same. My mother looked at us and said, “He didn’t do what he was supposed to do, the problem is ongoing, and we need to stop looking back and think of what we need to do from here! It is over and we cannot go back and redo it now!”
How many times have we wasted time, become so angry, blaming people and things for things we can do absolutely nothing about? It only harms and never helps anything. It prolongs us from praying about it, which is the only thing we can do. God specifically tells us in James we have not because we ask not! In other words the longer we engage in blaming and being angry the longer it will be before we see an answer because it cost us precious time in petitioning or asking God for the very thing that can turn it around!
The blame game didn’t work with Adam and Eve! It got them kicked right out of the Garden of Eden and it won’t work today, either. There is a saying that says the definition of insanity is to do the same thing over and over and expect a different result. Blaming never brings a solution. If you are in a situation and there is chaos, fighting, upset, and anger and all peace is gone ask yourself if you are in a blaming mode? Pray and listen to the Spirit of God. He is the genius that lives big on the inside of you! He knows exactly how to turn it around and you will feel so much better so much sooner and so will everyone else around you and STAY OUT OF THE BLAME GAME! Don’t blame others and don’t let them blame you, either! You will be happier, healthier, and life will be so much more content for all!
Blessings to you, dear reader! See you soon!!