Most people don’t like confrontation. If you do, you are in the minority. Many are petrified of it and tell themselves that it’s just too hard. So, when faced with a difficult situation or person, they avoid it and instead run away…for as long as possible.
People run from all kinds of things—like something new, or change in general. They run from their past. And many people in our society run away from responsibility. But the problem with running away from something is that you stay stuck. You don’t make any progress.
Now personally, I never had too many problems confronting people. In fact, I used to be overly confrontational, so the issue was more about how I handled confrontation. I had to learn how to confront people and situations the way Jesus did. I also had to learn how to confront the devil. And still, every once in awhile God, will give me a little refresher course on confronting the devil so he can’t walk all over me and I won’t listen to his lies.
We need to be people who will no longer run away from difficult situations because God doesn’t want us to be afraid. He wants us to be bold, courageous, and to know we can handle anything that comes our way!
Look at 1 John 4:4 (AMP). It says, “Little children, you are of God [you belong to Him] and have [already] defeated and overcome them [the agents of the antichrist], because He Who lives in you is greater (mightier) than he who is in the world.”
The next time you feel fearful about a situation or person that you know you need to confront, just quote this scripture and remind the devil of his place. And tell him, “No! I’m not putting up with fear any longer.”
Maybe you just need to live with a little more oomph! I’m talking about Holy Spirit oomph that says, “I am God’s child, and I’m not going to be stepped on my whole life. I am the head and not the tail, above and not beneath. I will not live in fear. I will not run away from things. Because I can do whatever I need to do in life through Christ who strengthens me.”
You can confront your problem. Or you can choose to run away from it. But if you run, the Bible is pretty clear as to what happens to people who run away from what God has called them to do…
They end up in the wilderness.
I want to talk about two people in the Bible who ran away when they were afraid and how God helped them confront their fear.
Moses – God had a destiny for Moses. But at forty years old, Moses did something wrong and instead of facing Pharaoh, he fled and “dwelt in the land of Midian” (Exodus 2:15 NKJV), which was a desert wilderness area outside of Egypt. He spent the next forty years in a holding pattern. God had to work some things out of Moses before he was ready, at age eighty, to go back and lead the Israelites.
Hagar – In Genesis we read how this servant girl got caught up in a really bad situation with Abraham and his wife, Sarah. When Hagar became pregnant by Abraham, which was Sarah’s idea, this created a big fight between her and Sarah. So Hagar ended up running away. The Bible says she ended up in the wilderness by a spring.
Then an angel of God told her, “Go back to your mistress and [humbly] submit to her control” (Genesis 16:9 AMP). Ouch! Although it was definitely unpleasant and, I’m sure, extremely hard to do, Hagar faced her difficult situation because she knew God wanted her to do it.
What about you? Are you in a wilderness today because you are fearfully avoiding confrontation? You don’t have to stay there all your life and keep running away from things. You can get out of that wilderness and live in the promised land God has for you—if you will start confronting issues.
4 1 Now I say that as long as the heir is a child, he differs in no way from a slave, though he is the owner of everything. 2 Instead, he is under guardians and stewards until the time set by his father. 3 In the same way we also, when we were children, were in slavery under the elemental forces[a] of the world. 4 When the time came to completion, God sent His Son, born of a woman, born under the law, 5 to redeem those under the law, so that we might receive adoption as sons. 6 And because you are sons, God has sent the Spirit of His Son into our[b] hearts, crying, “Abba, Father!” 7 So you are no longer a slave but a son, and if a son, then an heir through God.
8 But in the past, when you didn’t know God, you were enslaved to things[c] that by nature are not gods. 9 But now, since you know God, or rather have become known by God, how can you turn back again to the weak and bankrupt elemental forces? Do you want to be enslaved to them all over again? 10 You observe special days, months, seasons, and years. 11 I am fearful for you, that perhaps my labor for you has been wasted.
12 I beg you, brothers: Become like me, for I also became like you. You have not wronged me; 13 you know that previously I preached the gospel to you because of a physical illness. 14 You did not despise or reject me though my physical condition was a trial for you.[d] On the contrary, you received me as an angel of God, as Christ Jesus Himself.
15 What happened to this sense of being blessed you had? For I testify to you that, if possible, you would have torn out your eyes and given them to me. 16 Have I now become your enemy by telling you the truth? 17 They[e] are enthusiastic about you, but not for any good. Instead, they want to isolate you so you will be enthusiastic about them. 18 Now it is always good to be enthusiastic about good—and not just when I am with you. 19 My children, I am again suffering labor pains for you until Christ is formed in you. 20 I would like to be with you right now and change my tone of voice, because I don’t know what to do about you.
21 Tell me, those of you who want to be under the law, don’t you hear the law? 22 For it is written that Abraham had two sons, one by a slave and the other by a free woman. 23 But the one by the slave was born according to the impulse of the flesh, while the one by the free woman was born as the result of a promise. 24 These things are illustrations,[f] for the women represent the two covenants. One is from Mount Sinai and bears children into slavery—this is Hagar. 25 Now Hagar is Mount Sinai in Arabia and corresponds to the present Jerusalem, for she is in slavery with her children. 26 But the Jerusalem above is free, and she is our mother. 27 For it is written:
Rejoice, childless woman, who does not give birth. Burst into song and shout, you who are not in labor, for the children of the desolate are many, more numerous than those of the woman who has a husband.[g]
28 Now you, brothers, like Isaac, are children of promise. 29 But just as then the child born according to the flesh persecuted the one born according to the Spirit, so also now. 30 But what does the Scripture say?
Drive out the slave and her son, for the son of the slave will never be a coheir with the son of the free woman.[h]
31 Therefore, brothers, we are not children of the slave but of the free woman.
“ Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had borne him no children. But she had an Egyptian slave named Hagar; 2 so she said to Abram, “The Lord has kept me from having children. Go, sleep with my slave; perhaps I can build a family through her.” Genesis 16 1-2
When my husband and I were first married, he was not the “handyman” he is now. Through many learning experiences, he and I both learned forcing something is not a good idea!
We have a travel trailer and I dearly love to travel with it! Our lives had gotten very busy and one day we decided to pack up and just set out, just the two of us. We had not had any time at all together in literally several months! When my husband went to get his keys to the trailer he couldn’t remember which key fit which lock on the door. I went out with him, because I was going to begin to load the trailer as soon as he unlocked it. He put the key in and it wouldn’t turn. He decided he was going to force the key to turn. This was a very bad idea! As I began to say, “Don’t force it, you will break it!” that is exactly what he did. He forced it so hard he broke the key off in the door! All this did was make more work for him, since he had to figure out how to get the key out AND unlock it. All of us at one time or another have wanted something so badly, we try to force it to happen! If you think about it, it never turns out well.
I knew a lady once that wanted her daughter to marry a certain young man. He was a young and practicing attorney and the woman felt her daughter would be happy with him and the lifestyle he could provide for her. The only problem was the couple did not love each other. The parents thought the match was a wonderful one and to please the parents, the couple married. The marriage was a disaster and much hurt came to many! Instead of the couple trusting God and listening to Him lead them to the one that was right for them, they forced a relationship!
Some people do hear from God on situations in their lives. God has promised great things, but they get tired of the wait. Just like Sarah, if the promise they have been given doesn’t come in THEIR timing, they begin to “help God out” and make a bona-fide mess of it and postpone the promise in the process. If you will read the rest of the chapter our scripture is taken from, you will see Sarah only made things worse by FORCING God’s promise, instead of waiting and letting Him give her what He told her He would surely do! If she had just waited, so much disaster and heartache could have been avoided!
God does not need our help, He needs our trust. Forcing things to happen will always just complicate them more! Follow God and He will bring it about! He will do it perfectly. You will find out that what you were trying to force to happen was probably one of the worst things that could have happened or you would have missed out on a great opportunity had you not waited for God to orchestrate what He had planned!
God’s timing is perfect! He is never late, He is always right on time. Don’t get ahead of God, my dear reader! Follow Him and He will lead you into marvelous things!
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