7 Casting the [c]whole of your care [all your anxieties, all your worries, all your concerns, [d]once and for all] on Him, for He cares for you affectionately and cares about you [e]watchfully. 1 Peter 5:7 Amplified Bible
This type of cast is like in fishing. It literally means to FLING OUT FROM YOURSELF, but not to reel it back in again! Once you cast your line as a fisherman, you are not supposed to reel back in unless you have a fish on the hook. God will never put your anxieties “back on the hook” for you to reel back in!
I am not writing this post to give you advice. I don’t want anybody to run out and quit their jobs, divorce their spouse, sell their house and move into a tent, etc. over what I am about to say. Anything we do that is considered sin in God‘s eyes is NEVER the thing to do. To stop paying a note for something because you don’t want the burden of it anymore is stealing, to divorce your spouse when they have not committed any sin the Bible says releases you is sin on your part and God nor I will ever advise sin! To quit your job, when there are few and far between and you have children’s mouths to feed is just plain foolishness! I am talking about using wisdom with things that are unnecessary.
Let us say you spend too much money on things that aren’t necessary. You may love expensive clothes, boy/girl toys such as boats, motorcycles, jet skis, lavish cruises, etc.. When those bills come in from your credit card companies, if it causes you to have to lie down, makes you physically ill, causes you to have to go on medication you didn’t have to take before, it is time to LET IT GO! If whatever it is, is stealing your peace, causing fighting between you and your spouse, bringing you to emotional, financial, or mental ruin, it is time to get rid of it!
God cannot sufficiently use you, if your mind is preoccupied with things that bring worry, upset, and grief and if you are making bad choices that bring these things upon you, you cannot walk in the blessing God has promised! I will again use myself as an example. This week has been a trying week! Everything has been just one disaster after another. I woke up in the middle of the night with a full-blown IBS attack from all the stress I have had to carry; Let me reword that…I chose to carry. Oh, I said many times “God, I cast this care on you”, just to pick it up and try to ‘fix’ it faster! When IBS hits you, it is pain that is so severe I cannot think of anything in life I have endured pain wise that has compared….and I have had two children and an abcessed tooth before! On a scale of 1-10 it is a 10, 000! I do not exaggerate!
When I woke up in pain that had me doubled over, I thought, “I know what this is! It is such and such!” God spoke to me, “When you put your physical well-being in jeopardy it is time to let it go!” BAM!!! Have you ever noticed the most life changing revelations come through the simplest realizations? There was one thing I knew had to go. It came to me immediately! This very day, I said goodbye to it! Immediately peace flooded me, emotionally and mentally.
Whatever is stealing your peace, your joy, bringing you worry, sleepless nights due to fear and anxiety, it is time to let it go! Many times things become habits to us and we forget all we have to do is just tweak it by saying, “I am doing the same thing over and over, expecting to get a different result and that is just insanity! I am making a conscious decision to stop it!”
It may be you have a grown child that won’t leave home because they have pulled guilt trips, “I have no place else to go”, etc. and then you have to put up with behaviors that are harmful to you! They may come home inebriated, call you from the police station to bail them out once again, or even may abuse you in some way, refuse to find a job because they know you are a “free ride”! It is time to tough love and say “Bye, if you are hungry, I will feed you, but I won’t house you or pay your bills!” I promise you, suddenly they will be willing to work and will find a job, guaranteed! Without realizing it, you have enabled someone to take advantage of you and they have used your unconditional love to do it!
Anything that pulls you to a bottle, whether pills or alcohol, it is time to LET IT GO! Yes, even Christians can be addicts and alcoholics! You can be anything if you let the devil call the shots! Stop it in its tracks! Nothing will change until you do.
If you have made bad choices, join the rest of the world’s population, but have enough wisdom to say, “Father, I repent! I turn this around (which is what repent means) and I thank you for showing me how to get it right!” At that point, God will give you courage and wisdom to do what has to be done!
Nothing in life is worth your peace, precious reader! If you are a Christian, it doesn’t matter how small it seems, follow your what is in your spirit and let peace that is priceless abound in you! In His love~Juliana
7 Now in response to the matters you wrote[a] about: “It is good for a man not to have relations with[b] a woman.”[c] 2 But because sexual immorality is so common,[d] each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband. 3 A husband should fulfill his marital responsibility to his wife, and likewise a wife to her husband. 4 A wife does not have the right over her own body, but her husband does. In the same way, a husband does not have the right over his own body, but his wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another sexually—except when you agree for a time, to devote yourselves to[e] prayer. Then come together again; otherwise, Satan may tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 I say the following[f] as a concession, not as a command. 7 I wish that all people were just like me. But each has his own gift from God, one person in this way and another in that way.
8 I say to the unmarried and to widows: It is good for them if they remain as I am. 9 But if they do not have self-control, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with desire.
10 I command the married—not I, but the Lord—a wife is not to leave[g] her husband. 11 But if she does leave, she must remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband—and a husband is not to leave his wife. 12 But I (not the Lord)[h] say to the rest: If any brother has an unbelieving wife and she is willing to live with him, he must not leave her. 13 Also, if any woman has an unbelieving husband and he is willing to live with her, she must not leave her husband. 14 For the unbelieving husband is set apart for God by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is set apart for God by the husband.[i] Otherwise your children would be corrupt, but now they are set apart for God. 15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let him leave. A brother or a sister is not bound in such cases. God has called you[j] to live in peace. 16 For you, wife, how do you know whether you will save your husband? Or you, husband, how do you know whether you will save your wife?
17 However, each one must live his life in the situation the Lord assigned when God called him.[k] This is what I command in all the churches. 18 Was anyone already circumcised when he was called? He should not undo his circumcision. Was anyone called while uncircumcised? He should not get circumcised. 19 Circumcision does not matter and uncircumcision does not matter, but keeping God’s commands does. 20 Each person should remain in the life situation[l] in which he was called. 21 Were you called while a slave? It should not be a concern to you. But if you can become free, by all means take the opportunity.[m] 22 For he who is called by the Lord as a slave is the Lord’s freedman.[n] Likewise he who is called as a free man[o] is Christ’s slave. 23 You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of men. 24 Brothers, each person should remain with God in whatever situation he was called.
25 About virgins: I have no command from the Lord, but I do give an opinion as one who by the Lord’s mercy is trustworthy. 26 Therefore I consider this to be good because of the present distress: It is fine for a man to remain as he is. 27 Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed. Are you loosed from a wife? Do not seek a wife. 28 However, if you do get married, you have not sinned, and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But such people will have trouble in this life,[p] and I am trying to spare you. 29 And I say this, brothers: The time is limited, so from now on those who have wives should be as though they had none, 30 those who weep as though they did not weep, those who rejoice as though they did not rejoice, those who buy as though they did not possess, 31 and those who use the world as though they did not make full use of it. For this world in its current form is passing away.
32 I want you to be without concerns. An unmarried man is concerned about the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord. 33 But a married man is concerned about the things of the world—how he may please his wife— 34 and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or a virgin is concerned about the things of the Lord, so that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the things of the world—how she may please her husband. 35 Now I am saying this for your own benefit, not to put a restraint on you, but because of what is proper and so that you may be devoted to the Lord without distraction.
36 But if any man thinks he is acting improperly toward his virgin,[q] if she is past marriageable age,[r] and so it must be, he can do what he wants. He is not sinning; they can get married. 37 But he who stands firm in his heart (who is under no compulsion, but has control over his own will) and has decided in his heart to keep his own virgin, will do well. 38 So then he who marries[s] his virgin does well, but he who does not marry[t] will do better.
39 A wife is bound[u] as long as her husband is living. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to anyone she wants—only in the Lord.[v] 40 But she is happier if she remains as she is, in my opinion. And I think that I also have the Spirit of God.
However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Ephesians 5:33 ESV
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. Ephesians 5:22 ESV
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:31-32
Our marriage has always been a work in progress! From day one until 29 years later, it has been talking, compromising, planning, staying on the same page.
My husband and I are total opposites! I mean you cannot get more opposite than what we are! We have two things in common. We love each other and we believe the same way spiritually speaking. My husband loves me deeply. I am not sure why. I am not pulling for sympathy, this is a statement of fact nothing more. I can see it in his eyes when he looks at me, I can see it in little things he does. For example, tonight I had not felt well because I had been hurting from falling in the hole on our anniversary when we went camping and I got little to no sleep the night before. He was heading to the evening service at church later and I asked him before he left would he fix a fire in the fireplace for me. “I might if I have time.” I didn’t think any more about it, but when I got up from resting my back and went to the living room there in the fireplace was a beautiful blazing fire!
He has always done things like this. He would fix my coffee for every morning even though in all of our married life he has only drunk half a cup. He would lie on my side of the bed in the winter time until I got there to warm it up for me. He scratches my back to relax me every single night of my life! My husband works at home and when he hears me get up and start to stir, he walks in and gives me a big hug and kisses me and asks me how I slept. I can see in his eyes, with all of my bed head, no make-up, a few pounds heavier, and my face not quite as smooth as it was 30 years ago the love he has for me runs even deeper than it did in the beginning!
The other morning I was in a huge hurry. I had to have some photographs taken for an event. I was grabbing things throwing them in sacks and suddenly I heard something crash and break. I looked and it was my favorite bracelet. It went with everything!! I am a huge bling girl, so this was very annoying. My husband had the next day off. He told me he was going to play golf and he did. What he didn’t tell me was he had fished the broken bracelet out of the trash and spent the other half of his day shopping at the mall (something he hates voraciously) looking for another bracelet identical to the one I broke to replace it. Girls, don’t give me cruises, expensive chocolates, huge houses and fancy cars once a year! Give me a man who treats me like a queen every single day of my life just like my husband does! I feel sorry for women who are married to men who only give them things and never their hearts! And I feel sorry for husbands whose wives only want and take and never give gratitude and respect for someone who is probably the best thing that ever happened to them!
I had been thinking about all of this and then I began to shamefully think about some other things. For all that my husband so thoughtfully does for me, there are certain things he does that can really grate on my nerves. I was thinking about all the “negatives” or what I perceived as negative. On this particular day I found my tone gruff and my manner as well. Nothing puts me in a worse mood than to be running late and having to hurry and this was one of those days!! It seems everything goes wrong at those times. As I rushed around I was barking orders to my husband and he was doing them at HIS pace instead of MINE! The more he did this, the angrier I became. I could feel my frustration level rising. Finally, I snappishly said to him, “Oh, just leave it! I will do it myself!!” As I drove off in the car I began to rehearse his less than perfect traits. Oddly, I never once thought of mine!! Suddenly, the Holy Spirit spoke to my heart and reminded me of all the things he did do that was beyond what I ever thought to expect.
“A love so deep and so true deserves respect”, the Holy Spirit said. Oh, I could feel it. I no longer was feeling sorry for myself, I was feeling sorry for my husband! In all that he did and does for me, I failed to appreciate him and even worse I failed to do what the Bible says and RESPECT him!
What we rehearse the most in our minds is what our very lives will become! If we rehearse all the bad, the worse our world becomes and those in it that we hold responsible, often times unfairly, we begin to loathe instead of love. How very sad we destroy the love and its depths along with the relationship God so generously blessed us with! I find when I rehearse the positive, it acts as a magnet to bring more positive things to my life! A grateful heart always gets blessed!
Having some challenges in your marriage today? Write down five things your spouse does for you that is done just because they love you. Keep that list in front of your eyes all week, especially when things begin to get on your nerves, yet again! Rehearse it over and over!! Remind yourself of that love! Then write down at the end of the week how it was different from the other weeks. How it turned out to be surprisingly better than you expected. Your spouse will see the change in you, which will prompt some changes in them. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain or preserve, whichever the case may be!
Blessings to you, precious reader! See you soon!
5 Therefore, be imitators of God, as dearly loved children. 2 And walk in love, as the Messiah also loved us and gave Himself for us, a sacrificial and fragrant offering to God. 3 But sexual immorality and any impurity or greed should not even be heard of[a] among you, as is proper for saints. 4 Coarse and foolish talking or crude joking are not suitable, but rather giving thanks. 5 For know and recognize this: Every sexually immoral or impure or greedy person, who is an idolater, does not have an inheritance in the kingdom of the Messiah and of God.
6 Let no one deceive you with empty arguments, for God’s wrath is coming on the disobedient because of these things.[b] 7 Therefore, do not become their partners. 8 For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light— 9 for the fruit of the light[c] results in all goodness, righteousness, and truth— 10 discerning what is pleasing to the Lord. 11 Don’t participate in the fruitless works of darkness, but instead expose them. 12 For it is shameful even to mention what is done by them in secret. 13 Everything exposed by the light is made clear, 14 for what makes everything clear is light. Therefore it is said:
Get up, sleeper, and rise up from the dead, and the Messiah will shine on you.[d]
15 Pay careful attention, then, to how you walk—not as unwise people but as wise— 16 making the most of the time,[e] because the days are evil. 17 So don’t be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is. 18 And don’t get drunk with wine, which leads to reckless actions, but be filled by the Spirit:
19 speaking to one another in psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs, singing and making music from your heart to the Lord, 20 giving thanks always for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, 21 submitting to one another in the fear of Christ.
22 Wives, submit[f] to your own husbands as to the Lord, 23 for the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of the body. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so wives are to submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[g] her with the washing of water by the word. 27 He did this to present the church to Himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or anything like that, but holy and blameless. 28 In the same way, husbands are to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hates his own flesh but provides and cares for it, just as Christ does for the church, 30 since we are members of His body.[h]
31 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.[i]
32 This mystery is profound, but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 To sum up, each one of you is to love his wife as himself, and the wife is to respect her husband.
Today my grown children will be bringing their sweethearts to dinner for the first time. They seem to do everything at the same time! They moved out at about the same time, they started having a committed relationship at the same time, so now I am fixing supper for all of them, for the first time! You all know from previous blogs I am a planner. I knew what I wanted to make in advance, but I had not purchased any of it. I had decided last night, I would wait until the next morning, get up early and make my purchases and start the cooking process. Today, for some reason I slept later than usual. I woke up, looked at the clock and PANICKED!! It was ten o’clock and they are all coming at four. What is bad about that is my meal has to cook for six hours! I, in no way, had time! I threw on my clothes, wanted to cry but didn’t have time, and ran out of my room so I could tell my husband I needed help and fast!
When I got to the kitchen I saw my crock pot was out. Beside it was a note and it read like this:
I think I got everything you needed. I love you.
About that time my sweetheart walked in from mowing and I said, “Baby, I have just fallen more deeply in love with you than I have ever been in my life!”
He explained to me at that point how he knew I had not slept well last night, he knew I needed a full six hours to cook my dish, and he had gotten through with his early morning project (the sink was leaking) and decided to do it for me. He had gotten every thing down to the ingredients for the dip!
As I began to think about this, I thought about God. The Bible is His love letter to us. Jesus purchased with His body and His blood everything I would EVER need in life, and I am ALWAYS on my Heavenly Father‘s mind! Today my husband showed the love of God to me. No gift he could have purchased, nothing else could have shown me the love he had for me like that! He thought of me, I was on his mind. He met my need out of pure love from his heart! I am a blessed woman, indeed!!
You know I see a lot of blogs about how WIVES can serve their husbands and we should! But I don’t see a lot of blogs, in fact I haven’t seen any, on how a husband can love his wife and serve her. Let me tell you something if you are a husband. If you want your wife to melt in your arms, love her as my husband showed his love for me today. He literally acted in love as Christ did when He gave Himself for the church. We are His bride, and your wife is YOUR bride! She is your treasure! When a person finds a treasure, and I think of a treasure chest of gold that someone would find in the sea (I don’t know why that is always my visual) they guard it with their very lives! They put it in a safe place. They look at it and think about the preciousness of it. They treat it with adoration. They protect it because it has value that cannot be measured! This is how you should treat your wife and what God expects of you. Jesus looks and treats us the same way! Believe me, she will melt in your arms, she will begin to reciprocate in kindness, her respect for you will grow to magnitudes you never thought possible! It is amazing how far a little kindness can go. But, you don’t do this to get something, you do this because God commands it in the Word! When you don’t treat your wife according to God’s standards, your prayers are hindered! Why? Because faith works by love!
I didn’t intend for this to be about marriage, but God surprised me! What you do may be something as simple as surprising her with her favorite ice cream or an all out candle light dinner or a foot massage when she gets home from work. It may be a call to tell her forget fixing dinner, you have plans to take her to her favorite restaurant. It may be a card under her pillow with a note inside telling her how much you love and appreciate her. It may be something as simple as setting out a crock pot with groceries beside it…oh, how priceless that was for me!! It doesn’t have to be furs, diamonds, cars, and dream homes! All a wife, who truly loves her husband, wants is his love in return! Rekindle your flame today!
Oh, and for the record, I have the best husband in the whole world! Blessings to you, dear reader! I will see you soon!